Chap Stick Chapped Lips And Things Like Chemistry


I need someone to confirm or deny that this is a dick move because I’m mad about it but I also hate having people mad at me??? And nobody in my apartment is awake to help.

Hmmmm if I were you, I would say something like, “I didn’t respond because I was busy and out with my roommates all day, I wasn’t intentionally being rude to you. However, your response to me is rude. Please don’t assume the worst about me just because I don’t respond to a non-urgent text message when I’m busy and focusing my attention on other things or other people that are right in front of me at the time.”

I understand where he’s coming from, and if you provide a polite response, perhaps he will regret his rudeness to you and will rethink his assumptions when someone doesn’t text him back right away. =)

Arguing with a 17-year-old about video game pirating is probably a waste of my time… Oh well. Haha care to see the wreckage?

When I like a guy’s cologne
When I don’t make it to the gym


Normal reaction:


My reaction:


During finals week, when someone asks me what I’ve been up to
Top ten myths about introverts


Myth #1 – Introverts don’t like to talk.
This is not true. Introverts just don’t talk unless they have something to say. They hate small talk. Get an introvert talking about something they are interested in, and they won’t shut up for days.

Myth #2 – Introverts are shy.
Shyness has nothing to do with being an Introvert. Introverts are not necessarily afraid of people. What they need is a reason to interact. They don’t interact for the sake of interacting. If you want to talk to an Introvert, just start talking. Don’t worry about being polite.

Myth #3 – Introverts are rude.
Introverts often don’t see a reason for beating around the bush with social pleasantries. They want everyone to just be real and honest. Unfortunately, this is not acceptable in most settings, so Introverts can feel a lot of pressure to fit in, which they find exhausting.

Myth #4 – Introverts don’t like people.
On the contrary, Introverts intensely value the few friends they have. They can count their close friends on one hand. If you are lucky enough for an introvert to consider you a friend, you probably have a loyal ally for life. Once you have earned their respect as being a person of substance, you’re in.

Myth #5 – Introverts don’t like to go out in public.
Nonsense. Introverts just don’t like to go out in public FOR AS LONG. They also like to avoid the complications that are involved in public activities. They take in data and experiences very quickly, and as a result, don’t need to be there for long to “get it.” They’re ready to go home, recharge, and process it all. In fact, recharging is absolutely crucial for Introverts.

Myth #6 – Introverts always want to be alone.
Introverts are perfectly comfortable with their own thoughts. They think a lot. They daydream. They like to have problems to work on, puzzles to solve. But they can also get incredibly lonely if they don’t have anyone to share their discoveries with. They crave an authentic and sincere connection with ONE PERSON at a time.

Myth #7 – Introverts are weird.
Introverts are often individualists. They don’t follow the crowd. They’d prefer to be valued for their novel ways of living. They think for themselves and because of that, they often challenge the norm. They don’t make most decisions based on what is popular or trendy.

Myth #8 – Introverts are aloof nerds.
Introverts are people who primarily look inward, paying close attention to their thoughts and emotions. It’s not that they are incapable of paying attention to what is going on around them, it’s just that their inner world is much more stimulating and rewarding to them.

Myth #9 – Introverts don’t know how to relax and have fun.
Introverts typically relax at home or in nature, not in busy public places. Introverts are not thrill seekers and adrenaline junkies. If there is too much talking and noise going on, they shut down. Their brains are too sensitive to the neurotransmitter called Dopamine. Introverts and Extroverts have different dominant neuro-pathways. Just look it up.

Myth #10 – Introverts can fix themselves and become Extroverts.
Introverts cannot “fix themselves” and deserve respect for their natural temperament and contributions to the human race. In fact, one study (Silverman, 1986) showed that the percentage of Introverts increases with IQ.

imageThis list was inspired by the book The Introvert Advantage: How to Thrive in an Extrovert World by Marti Laney.

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Where I’m From

I’m from the middle,

a rose between two thorns.

I’m from two loving parents,

hugs and kisses every day,

holding hands, and “I love you, Princess.”

I’m from cinnamon rolls and monkey bread,

ribs and mac & cheese with ketchup,

but I’ll cry myself to sleep at the table before I eat those green beans.

I’m from, “Because I said so,” and,

“Stop crying or I’ll give you something real to cry about.”

I’m from Piatt Lake in the U.P.,

long weekends spent with Dad’s family,

sleeping, boating, fishing, swimming.

I’m from Ubly in “The Thumb” where Mom grew up,

every Saturday before Christmas at Grandma’s house,

eating, opening presents, and rotten egg water.

I’m from traveling on vacation,

Florida, Washington D.C., the Caribbean on cruises.

Hauling the trailer to a nearby campground or across the country,

Yosemite, Yellowstone, Rocky Mountains,

Mount Rushmore, San Fran, Disney Land.

I’m from Cinderella, Aladdin, and Sleeping Beauty,

Little Bear, Rugrats, Pokémon, and Recess.

I’m from getting picked last on the playground,

but preferring the arts instead.

I’m from voice, piano, and viola lessons,

concerts, plays, and musicals.

I’m from, “We interrupt this family for baseball season,”

cheering on the sidelines and sounding exactly like my mom.

I’m from almost straight A’s,

the “smart one” of my family.

Big dreams of future careers,

nurse, veterinarian, singer, actress, teacher.

I’m from, “We’ll support you no matter what,”

and, “You can do anything you set your mind to.”

I’m from love,

love God and love others.

Jesus says he is like a doctor for the disease of sin. A doctor doesn’t just look at a sick person and tell them they shouldn’t be sick. They help. You know what’s coming from God when you mess up? Help is coming.

Unka Glen Fitzjerrell in his March BridgeBox sermon

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I once asked God to come into my heart, into my life.

I asked Him to be my father.

Just because I ran away,

over and over and over again,

doesn’t mean He isn’t my father anymore.

No matter how many times I ignore Him,

or run away from Him,

or disobey Him,

He will always be my father.

We will always have a relationship,

but it might be weak sometimes,

but that will never be His fault.

He is always there for me with open arms,

waiting for me to run home,

so that he can fix me and make me new.

Getting your walk out of the blahs



Anonymous asked: For the past 2 years I’ve been in a stagnant spiritual state. I always feel exhausted in my walk with God. And more and more I’m starting to lose the enthusiasm and life I had before. How do you find rest in your spiritual walk? I’ve tried reading my bible more often, and thinking things through but I just can’t find a place to regenerate.


Unka Glen answered: You’re not alone, I get lots of questions just like this one. So let’s look at one big key to getting out of this stagnation.

Many people stagnate in their walk because they fail to realize that they’re simply not getting real ministry in their lives. So let’s define ministry. Assuming (as we do) that the Holy Spirit is drawing all people to Himself, then ministry is about removing the obstacles that hinder that forward progress. That is, telling them the Good News that sets them free to be closer with the Lord.

Most often this obstacle or pitfall that holds us back is simply a lie that we’ve bought into. This lie is at usually at the center of a complex of unhealthy thoughts, unhealthy relationships, and unhealthy actions. Ministry obviously isn’t about pointing out that lie.

Telling us that we’re in a pit does nothing to help. Telling us we need to get out of the pit does not help. Telling us we never should have been walking where the pitfalls are, does not help. We need to know how, exactly, to get out of the pit.

We need to be set free. 

Jesus said he was sent to proclaim freedom for the prisoners (Luke 4:18), Paul said that where the Spirit of the Lord is, there is freedom (2 Cor. 3:17),  and he even said (in Gal.5:1) that “it’s for freedom that we were set free” (just in case you got confused about what to do with freedom once you got it).

Okay, all that is simple. Once you get your insight, once you hear those words that break down the lie, you’re ready to take things to the Lord and plant seeds of truth where those lies have been uprooted. But here’s the thing: as you can see from my description, if you were being ministered to all along, it would be pretty much impossible to stagnate.

You may think you’re getting ministered to when in fact you aren’t. So let’s look at some things that we mistake for ministry:

The Xtreme Radical Passion Crazy Conference Concert. You know the kind of event I’m talking about. Those events can be great for hearing some music that you may like, and having a very emotionally uplifting time, and all of that can be good, if you already know how to get out of the pit, and you just need a little encouragement to power you on your way.

But encouragement and exhortation, as important as they are, cannot be a substitute for actual ministry. There is no nourishment there, and there isn’t meant to be any. It’s like eating cotton candy, it tastes good, it’s fun, and it kinda makes you smile to eat something that’s pink and looks like an old lady’s hairdo. Ultimately, what is life without a little cotton candy now and again?

But you can’t live on cotton candy. You need real spiritual nutrition. And the truth is, the smaller the venue, the more likely you are to receive good minsitry. As a very good pastor recently said to me, “if I don’t know my people’s struggles, how can I minister to them?”

People who know your struggles, and who know the Word, and know how to put the two together can give you the help you seek. That can happen at a conference, or any large group setting, but odds are you’re much more likely to get good ministry out of a good mentor you can talk to face-to-face.

Your Positive Best Life of Thinking Positive Now! Again, you know the books I’m talking about. Positive thinking is powerful, and it’s an essential part of a good walk, but it isn’t ministry. One of my favorite things to do is to wait until we’re deep into a sticky and life-threatening situation (which does come up occasionally in our urban ministry), and then I jokingly say, “the important thing in this moment is to think positive!”

When the Titanic plows into the iceberg in the night, we don’t need positive thinking, we need to know how to get off the flippin’ sinking ship. Right. Now. Thinking positive is for afterwards. If you know what’s ministry and what isn’t, then you can make sure you get the information that will set you free, and then the encouragement you need to keep going with that solution.

Kiss Goodbye Whatever Makes You Feel Good, Because It’s an Idol. If I put guilt on you, and then you stop doing the thing I made you feel guilty over, for some people, that seems like great spiritual progress. It’s not. It’s just playing games. If all we achieved is me manipulating you to denying yourself pleasures that God may actually want for you, (albeit in a certain limited and controlled way) then you’re not closer to God, you’re closer to resenting God.

Moreover, the guilt itself will have driven you further from God, with you feeling less and less worthy of God’s love. This process of putting people into the bondage of guilt, is essentially the opposite of ministry. You can’t trade the bondage of sin for the bondage of guilt and call that progress. You know it’s ministry when you are set free.  

Paul criticizes the Corinthians in 2 Cor. 11:20, by saying “You even put up with anyone who enslaves you or exploits you or takes advantage of you”. And to the Galatians who were being manipulated into making a big deal out of circumcision “You were running a good race. Who cut in on you to keep you from obeying the truth? That kind of persuasion does not come from the one who calls you.” (Gal. 5:7-8).

There are sermons and songs and even good conversations over coffee that can set you free. Those things that truly minister to you can require a bit of digging to find, but that stuff is out there to be found. Recognize real ministry when you see it, and settle for nothing less.


I love how my physiology professor always refers to us “doing experiments down in the basement.”

When I graduate, one thing I will not miss is hearing people screaming outside my window at night on weekends.




When people are drunk, it’s like a contest to see who can scream the loudest and longest. It is completely unnecessary.

When that happens, I have a strong urge to yell back at them one of the following:




Thankfully, I never say those things. I prefer to simply put on headphones and turn on my box fan and pretend they don’t exist. Life is easier that way.

I also hear way too many girls talking obnoxiously loud about whatever it is — parties, boys, drinking, their phones, their shoes, their friends, etc.

What’s really fun is when I hear people singing. That’s a real treat.

And here I am, on a Friday night, sitting in my room studying.

I may not be having fun, but at least I’m being responsible.


/end rant

‘Christian’ means ‘Christ follower’. It may not look pretty, but you’re following. You know how a little kid will grab ahold of their parents ankles and get drug along? That’s how it is in my relationship with the Lord, just hanging on. The rest of it, I’m working on, and that’s okay.

Unka Glen Fitzjerrell in his March Bridge Box Sermon

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I really want to do this now

Graduation — Currently Freaking Out

So, I’m graduating in May, but that’s not the scary part. I’m doing my student teaching after I graduate, for the entire following school year. Sure, that’s a little scary, but not what I’m freaking out about. What scares me most is my living situation for next year, where I’ll do my student teaching. I have two options: (1) Stay in the general Lansing area and find people to room with, or (2) move back home to Shelby Township and live in our apartment with my older brother (my parents live in Colorado and my little brother is at Central).

I thought it would be a peace of cake finding a roommate (or two or three) for next year, but I put it off for a long time, and now it’s just not going so well (though I’m pretty convinced that had I tried to figure it out sooner, which I kind of sort of did, I still wouldn’t have been able to get people to talk to me and make plans, and people probably would have decided on their currently decided living situations, anyway). I’m just struck by the realization that I just don’t have very many close friends that I speak with on a regular basis (and the few that I do have are graduating and moving back to their home or to another state or wherever), and that’s making it really hard for me to make plans and figure things out. I don’t want to live with strangers or acquaintances or my older brother or, worse, by myself, but I am just not seeing any other options. I’m starting to freak out because my plan was to live here but I can’t seem to make any solid living arrangements that I would actually be okay with. I wanted to stay here because I’ve got some community and some friends here, and it would be nice living close to campus still for those few days during student teaching where I’ll have to come to campus for a class (living at home, I’d have to drive to somewhere in Detroit which would likely be approx. an hour). At the same time, making the decision to move back home is an easy one — I can stop looking for roommates, I wouldn’t have to worry about coordinating cooking and rent/utility payments and sharing fridge space, the apartment is already there and being payed for (and I’d be saving my parents thousands of dollars since they wouldn’t be having to pay for my rent), I’d have my own bedroom (for the first time since I graduated high school) and bathroom (which are up in a loft, so I wouldn’t even be spending most of my time on the same floor as my brother), cable and internet are already paid for, I wouldn’t have to worry about moving anymore (after moving out of my apartment at school in May I’d be officially done), I wouldn’t have to travel as far for breaks and family get-togethers, and probably other benefits that I can’t think of.

I’m just so scared to move home because I can imagine how lonely I’ll be. Here I have friends and events to go to and Bible study and Campus Crusade and friends I go to church with, but at home I’ll almost be starting completely over. It’ll almost be like I’m living by myself, anyway, because my older brother and I don’t talk much and my parents don’t live there, all of my friends from home live a minimum of 20 minutes away, I don’t really have any church connections anymore, and I’m just worried that I’ll be all alone with no friends. I’m an introvert and I spend a lot of time alone and I can entertain myself easily, but if I don’t have friends that I can hang out with sometimes, I’m not gonna handle it well. I have community here, so it’ll make things easier in that way if I just stay in East Lansing.

But at the same time, eventually I’m going to have to leave, I can’t stay forever (even if I choose to reside here somewhat permanently and get a teaching job here, I’d still be living by myself, my friends from college will have all moved away, I won’t be able to attend college events anymore, I’ll have to figure out how to make new friends, anyway, and I’ll probably end up just as alone as I will at home). I can avoid growing up and moving on for as long as I can, but is that really what’s best for me? Probably not. If I move home, I’ll be pushing myself out of my comfort zone by having to seek out new people and find new community (like getting connected with a church and a small group and with other people my age at the school I’ll be student teaching at), but that’s basically what I’m going to have to do if I stay here, too, it’ll just be slightly easier since I’ll still be living with people my age and can still attend the same types of events I’ve been going to, like Cru. But after my year of student teaching, I’ll likely end up moving back home, anyway, so why not just get it over with now?

Maybe it’s time to be a big girl, grow up, move on, and actually make more of an effort to make a life for myself…